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The Beauty vs. The Brain

In Minds and Mindsets on October 23, 2011 at 4:59 pm

There exists this general perception that Beauty is inferior to Brains. The notion seems to be that it’s ok to be an ugly, intelligent person but not ok to be a beautiful, dumb person. And I seem incapable of perceiving the difference between these two entities.

Give it a thought. Neither your beauty, nor your brains (read talent, skill, IQ etc.) are your own soul creations. You are beautiful or intelligent or talented or street smart or skillful by virtue of your genes, your circumstances, your lifestyle, your mental makeup, nature or “grace of God” if you must. The ultimate purpose is to use whatever you have to make your living. But you can’t merely use your “gifts.” You need to polish it, enhance it, and work with it to make your cut.

This takes me to Skill Surgery vs. Cosmetic Surgery. Each day you work on several aspects of your abilities such as your knowledge, your problem solving skills, your concentration levels, to excel in a competitive environment. The same applies to people from the field of sports, dance, music and arts. The beauties, on the other hand, work hard on their bodies.  While the brains subject themselves to high pressure learning environments that involve mental transformation, beauties subject themselves to extensive beauty remedies and sometimes cosmetic fixing for physical transformations.

Let’s be honest, all of us require some fixing, some nip and tuck, whether it be our brains or our looks. While some of you work hard on creating an altered perception of smartness or intelligence in a social environment, some others work on creating an altered visual perception. And I don’t see how one is any less a mask than the other. And since we are all masked, what’s the big deal about?

In my eyes, the display of your mathematics scores to win the high-value brand institution is not any different from the display of your bodies to win the “Hottest Beach Body” title. Beauty is as subjective as your brain’s ability to score better than the others given a second chance.

Anyway, while the beauty and the brains breakeven the rest of us, who do not belong to either of the extremes, must get to work. We have a lot of surgeries in the pipeline!

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I can judge you by the way you…

In Minds and Mindsets on October 2, 2011 at 11:59 am

Scrutiny is inevitable when walking into a pool full of new faces. A judgement begins with an assumption and is eventually proved right or wrong. As far as human behaviour is concerned, it’s just a rough estimation. Most of us believe we make accurate judgements of a personality but few of us admit that our judgment is trash. Every nascent relationship is about giving chances; several chances. Ideally, you say nice things, they say nice things, you say stupid things, they say stupid things, you are mean, and they are mean. Sometimes you are nice but they are mean and vice versa. There is a lot of room for misunderstandings and misinterpretations. But after several awkward interactions you enter a phase of comfort interactions and eventually stabalize. That level of stabalization is your relationship with the person. It is this relationship that you are going to build upon.

All through graduation and post graduation we’ve been groomed to develop formal relationships; get interview-ready. A lot is said about body language, attires, presentations, etc. followed by several trainings and lists of do’s and don’ts under the pretext of personality development. The question is what parts of our personality does appropriate decoration intend to develop? Our focus is currently on generating “say the right thing, do the right thing, behave the right way” puppets. In such a situation when people say they are looking for something unique, it makes me wonder why they are looking for “something unique” on an assembly line! If you really think about it, why should the onus of your poor judgement come on the opposition? If you judge a book by its cover, it doesn’t become the books fault!

Currently people around me claim to be great leaders, great communicators, and great listeners and they probably are. They are also confident, intelligent, proactive, outgoing and all the greatness you can think of. But you are what your strengths and weaknesses make you. Your essence, your originality lies there. Yet, you are wise to never disclose your weakness and I know you will never disclose yourself. But I hope you know that this means we might never know each other.